Inexplicable Pain, Part 2

At one point, I was prescribed Lupron which literally made me homicidally crazy. My first indication that something was wrong with me on this medicine should have come about two months after my first shot. It was early December and I was sound asleep, until my Christmas tree in the adjoining room fell over. Instead of reacting like a sane person and either going back to sleep or picking the tree up, I (and I am still embarrassed to admit this) began swearing at the tree, kicking at it with my bare feet, even jumping up and down on the tree!

I swear on my life this is true! At one point I paused for a moment and realized what I was doing hurt my feet, so I stopped just long enough to go back into my bedroom, put on shoes and commence jumping up and down on the tree again. Seriously, this might sound side-splittingly funny, but it is true. My sense of judgment while on Lupron was so skewed that I thought my reaction was perfectly normal and whats more, I couldn’t, I mean, could not stop myself despite the throbbing in my feet and the shards of broken ornaments everywhere. I couldn’t stop myself until I was so exhausted that I simply went back to bed, leaving the shattered tree on the floor until the following day.

Two weeks later, while stuck in traffic on Christmas Day, I literally pounded my head over and over on the steering wheel because I felt so hopeless and out of control, both because of being stuck in traffic and because I couldn’t control my body, my thoughts or my emotions any more. I don’t know if my sister, the only passenger in the car, was more scared for her life or mine.

The final straw for Lupron came about a month later, when, again stuck in traffic, I literally imagined what it would be like to kill the person in front of me. I mean I imagined getting out of my car, getting in to their car, putting my hands around their throat and squeezing the life-force out of them without any remorse…I could even feel in my hands what that would be like! It was one of the most horrible wake-up calls of my life and I had to stop taking the medicine because of the terror of my thoughts and what might happen if I stayed on it.

You may wonder why the hell I kept allowing myself to be a guinea pig to all these medical “treatments” and I often wonder that myself. But the heart of the truth is that even after my surgery and each new medical treatment, I kept feeling worse and worse each month and I just wanted the pain to go away. I just wanted to feel human. Instead I often felt like some grotesque blob that was being controlled by inexplicable bodily pains. I wanted so badly to believe that the next medical thing would cure me, and if it wouldn’t cure me, that at least it would give me some reprieve from the pain and the reassurance that this was not “all in my head."

A few years after the Lupron disaster, (as well as brief attempts to use the Nuva ring, which also didn’t work for me) I moved to Chicago. One of the few blessings to come out of living in Chicago was health insurance and a co-worker who referred me to a primary care doctor who had no idea what the hell was wrong with me. Instead of dismissing my pain, she was compassionate and humane enough to refer me to a new male gynecologist who did take me seriously.

St. Marc (as I will call him for this story) believed in me and in my pain. He also believed in my ability in my late 20’s to know for certain that I never wanted to have children. While he, like every doctor before him, refused to remove my ovaries or uterus, he did prescribe the Mirena IUD. He did this after carefully discussing with me what it was I wanted from my treatment and informing me that while I might like to have my ovaries and/or uterus removed, that likely wasn’t going to solve the problem. The IUD, however, should cause me to no longer have my period, which should quell the pain we believed was caused by the endometriosis (which flared up very month with my periods). Additionally, the Mirena doesn’t contain estrogen, which I cannot tolerate and should last for five years. I wanted that damn IUD more than a child wants to see Santa and a sack load of gifts on Christmas Eve!

In order to get the IUD, St. Marc had to battle his colleagues (I could hear them arguing outside the exam room door) who were adamant that I was too young for this procedure and too young to decide for myself if I did not want to have children. Since the IUD is rarely (at least in that office) given to women who have not had children (in the rare even that it could rupture my uterus and leave me unable to have the kids I don’t want), I had to sign a wavier that I knew what I was doing, knew what the risks were and wanted the IUD anyway.

Finally, on May 17, 2006, at the ripe old age of 29, I had the IUD inserted. That procedure and the following two weeks were far more painful than most of my periods, in part because I was never pregnant so my uterus was rebelling against being stretched out to have this thing inserted into it. There were even times of such agonizing pain that I rolled on the floor in the fetal position waiting for the massive doses of Tylenol to kick in while my partner looked on in helplessness (St. Marc did not prescribe any pain meds since he was falsely convinced that I would not be in that much pain).

However, despite the few weeks of intense pain, that Christmas I received the best gift I’ve had in decades…my last period. This December will mark three years without a period and the longest period of time I have ever been able to use any form of birth control without horrendous side effects. While the IUD and my former gynecologist have been blessings in my life, they were no cure. For a while though, I thought that the worst was behind me.

Then, five months after getting the IUD, (which, in all fairness, sometimes made my lower back feel achy) I fell down a flight of stairs outside our apartment while trying to take the laundry down the rain slicked stairs to the laundry room. I must have blacked out during the fall because when I “came to” I had no idea why I was lying on the cement ground in the rain. And yet, despite my aching everything, I forced myself to get up and start the laundry. Once that was going, I hauled myself up the three flights of stairs and called my mom for advice. Since nothing was broken she told me to ice what hurt and take some pain medicine. I didn’t go to the emergency room until two days later when I got a doctor’s appointment for the persistent pain. My doctor was the one who insisted that I go, despite the fact that the x-rays they took showed nothing abnormal was wrong. From that fall to this day, my lower back has never felt the same, despite plenty of pain killers and a few months of physical therapy.

Sometimes, over the past seemingly endless years, there were periods of respite from the pain, be it my lower back pain, the pain in my right ovary or the pain in my uterus, but always it came back. I don’t really know when the pain returned. In many ways it has always been there in one form or another and eventually the pain spread to other places in my body. However, once I left Chicago, I did not have health insurance, even when I was employed, so again I tried to force myself back into thinking the pain was all in my head.

Within the past year, the pain, in various forms, seems to have returned, usually out of know where…and generally when I am doing nothing more strenuous than standing still. And I cannot recall a time when it seemed to have such sudden onset and intensity. It was really starting to scare the hell out of me.

Even though I am currently unemployed and still do not have health insurance, the pain I am experiencing became so intense and so freaking scary, I finally sought medical help which I would have to pay for out of pocket. My gynecologist, a woman this time, was unable to figure out what was causing me such agony after all my routine medical tests came back “normal”. To her credit, she did not write me off or tell me, yet again, that it was in my head. Instead, she referred me to a Pelvic Pain Specialist, (one of the few in the country) who agreed to see me for hundreds of dollars less than he would normally charge. I took the first available slot and spent the next two months trying to convince myself to cancel this still very expensive appointment, because, you know, it was “all in my head.” But the pain throughout my body was telling that idea to fuck off.